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Not Worth It

I know the logic. I’m ashamed to admit I’ve used it, myself. You think you’re a kick-ass multi-tasker and there’s no way you would ever get into an accident because of your phone. You juggle things every day, right? What’s the big deal? It’s not like you’re going to kill someone…


Happiness Is…

Okay, so, yes, this is way cute, but there are a ton of cute things on the internet. I’ll tell you when this video won me over, though: at 7:49, when this 3 year-old speaks profound wisdom.


Honest and Unmerciful

I don’t get into celebrity news too much. Granted, it can be fun (in a demented sort of way) to watch the rise and fall of various Hollywood types, but more often than not, I feel kind of sleazy when I let myself gawk too long. Partly that’s because I think so much of it is ridiculous, and partly that’s because it’s so dehumanizing.

When a celebrity passes away, I see it as unfortunate, but I don’t typically focus on it too much. If the deceased was someone whose art I had a particular fondness for, I might mourn it in some small way, but I don’t pretend to have known the person. Like everyone else, I feel the void left when a talented person we’ve come to enjoy and respect passes on. I want to honor them, of course, but I don’t want to diminish their personal relationships by talking about the loss as though it had nearly the same impact on me.

This past weekend, Philip Seymour Hoffman died. He’s been one of my favorite actors for a while. I’ve watched movies purely because he was in them, and I never saw him in a single role I didn’t enjoy.

I didn’t (and still don’t) know much about his personal life. I only know he had a way of bringing roles to life so that they resonated with me. I’ll certainly miss him on screen.

But more than that. For whatever reason, his passing has been on my mind for the better part of two days. Not just because he was a talented actor, but also because the circumstances of his death seem to have been particularly tragic and unnecessary. More than a few wildly talented people have struggle with and ultimately left us as a result of drug use. All such situations are equally mournful, but the quick exit Mr. Hoffman made has left me reeling.

Maybe it’s because, years ago, a friend suggested that if there were a movie made about me, he should be the actor to play me. I don’t know. I only know that I feel a deep and resounding sadness when I think about the fact that he’s gone. Nothing compared to the sadness his friends and family feel, I have no doubt, but something that gives me cause for pause.

So today, I’m grateful for the talent he shared with us. I’m grateful, too, for the fortune I’ve had, personally, that has spared me some of the struggles he had. And, I’m grateful for the people in my life who make it worth living.

In his honor, here’s a small sample of his work. One of his better scenes, in my opinion. It’s my small way of showing respect.

Focus, Focus, Focus


Okay, kids, it’s tough decision time.

Over the last couple of years I’ve really enjoyed sharing my thoughts and rants with you here. I’ve taken great pride in posting several times a week, every week, but, as you can well imagine, that takes a fair chunk of time. So, in the interest of narrowing my focus, I’m going to turn down the volume of posts a bit. Quite a bit, actually.

What This Doesn’t Mean

  • I’m not deleting or abandoning this blog. (At least, not in the immediate future.)
  • I’m not saying I’ll never write anything here.
  • I’m not saying I won’t make this site a focus again at some point in the future.

What This Does Mean

  • The weekly schedule is gone. Kablooey.
  • I have no idea when the next post will be. Could be next week. Could be next month. Could be next year…which is in, literally, 2 months.

In the meantime, I’ll be working hard to finish up not one, but two book proposals. If you’re interested in keeping up with me, check out my fiction site. I plan to continue to post there twice a week.

Thanks to everyone for reading. (Both of you!) And, if I don’t talk to you again before then, have a wonderful holiday season!



Roadtrips are underrated.

This weekend, my wife, a close friend and I are taking our annual roadtrip to the Oktoberfest festival in Fredericksburg, Texas. This will be our fifth year. It’s become a relatively inexpensive tradition that we look forward to, and looking back on that first year we did it, I’m so glad we didn’t find some lame excuse to just stay home, instead.

Granted, it’s probably too late for you to plan a roadtrip for this weekend, but I encourage you to make plans in the next couple of days to take a roadtrip some time in the following weeks. If the end of the year is too hectic for you, shoot for next spring. Find a not-too-far-away destination, figure out who you want to be locked in a car with for hours, and plan the thing.

Make some fun, unique memories, and maybe even start a tradition of your own.

Slow Down

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It’s not even October yet, and the first Black Friday/Holiday sales are starting up. Ugh. Too soon, too soon.

If you’re considering getting wrapped up in the hype and if your mind is already on Christmas shopping, I encourage you to take this weekend (and several more after it) to slow down. Enjoy the fall. (You remember fall? The season between Summer and Winter? The one we almost miss entirely because we start prepping for Winter holidays before Summer is over?)

Enjoy the changing weather. Take a walk in a park now that it’s cooling off a bit. Pay attention to the leaves turning. Don’t skip ahead to holiday prep work months in advance. Instead, slow down and take things one season at a time.

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